Oxymorons with friends

[tsumik]

So me and my friend michelleapril were talking online about the expansive dating pool I dabble in minus the one... Female Best Friends. Now we all know that's like the unwritten no no place of dating cause heaven forbid you have a relationship break up and never talk again. I mean seriously could you imagine dating someone who actually listens, has been there for you through constant other heartbreaks, and knows you inside and out. Most absurd thing I've ever heard wouldn't you say?

I mean husbands and great boyfriends are constantly listed as "my confident, my greatest support, my best friend.." I guess when you place friendship and the relationship in reverse order it is against the order of the universe. I mean having someone to call day or night, hang out with, provides advice when needed, shoulder when times are rough, an extended circle of friends, and STILL be able to go and date whomever. Isn't that the job of the nurtured family pet? Ah yes the best of both worlds. Cause why would we ever want to risk losing that? We should all be able to have our cake and eat it too.

Perhaps I'm just more of a risk taker. The one who goes all in knowing full well I could lose the entire stack of chips for the opportunity for the jackpot. I wrote a post long before how for alot of people they're happy inside their bubbles and would never step outside of it. And while I think that's really great and wish I could have that, I've long since stepped out of that bubble into very far reaches and now require a very complex set of circumstances of extraordinary character to satisfy me. Again nothing wrong with the white picket fence, two and half cars, and a dog. But if you've kept up on my journal you'd know that I've never really been that person. I'm just a risk taker.

"Shoot for the moon cause if you miss you'll still be among the stars" - unknown

That's how I feel about life. But some of my best relationships have been with my best friends. But what do I know, I've been single for two years =) Ok time to shovel down some sweet tarts and a cappuccino. Oh yes it's that time!

Comments

[1ginacolada.livejournal.com]

I agree with you about the friend thing, that being said;

Every single time I ever told a guy I would not date him because I did not want to ruin our friendship, the truth was that I just wasn't interested and this is the easiest, most flattering and tactful way to say it. Girls use this line notoriously. And trust me, if a girl is interested, she will go for it regardless of the 'friend' excuse shit.

The thing is, girls and guys are different. A guy is usually only friends with girls he finds attractive, and in his way he can mesh the lines between friends/romantic interest. Girls make friends with guys they aren't attracted to physically, but are attracted to emotionally. And they make romantic interests of the guys they find both physically/emotionally attractive. Its the whole thing with guys being much more visual.

Thats my opinion anyway, although I would be willing to argue it cause I see it in practice often. :):)

[arwyn.livejournal.com]

A guy is usually only friends with girls he finds attractive, and in his way he can mesh the lines between friends/romantic interest.

Perhaps, but in that case a lot of guys have low standards for attractiveness...!

Girls make friends with guys they aren't attracted to physically, but are attracted to emotionally. And they make romantic interests of the guys they find both physically/emotionally attractive.

Yeah, I agree with this, in general.

[1ginacolada.livejournal.com]

Yes, compared with females I do think men's standards are a tad lower!!

[raistlinvassago.livejournal.com]

As long as it's not half a dog. I don't like animal cruelty. :)

[consciencekitty.livejournal.com]

My boyfriend was one of my best friends. I know that if it doesn't work out I will lose a great person but the way I see it, if I hadn't given it a shot I would have lost a great opportunity. And so far, so good.