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tsumikIt's true. I see it time and time again. While my lifestyle and views on life can be wildly unorthodox and very modern I'm still quit conservative in some regards. Perhaps why I attempt to be as chivalrous and hold the highest amount of manners and etiquette as I can. Why? Cause nothing is more beautiful then a woman who acts like a woman. And no, I'm not talking about the last minute decision changing, hormonal mood swings, or the penchant to spent several preemptive hours dressing, makeup, hair, etc. because actually I love those things too. Just in qualitative doses. I'm talking about the things that really make a woman a woman.
Nothing is better the women who wear long earrings, strappy heels, pink, frilly blouses, hair in ponytails, pig tails with ribbons, chokers, stripper boots, spaghetti strap and baby doll tshirts and jeans, berets, long necklaces, fingernail polish, mini, poodle, and pleated skirts, silk scarfs, long hair, anything from sanrio, and let's not forget the heart stopping large bouncy curls from hot rollers. A woman whose part couture, sunday couch potato, new york sophisticate, japanese school girl, black leather mistress, and the outdoorsy yet I run from bugs type. Now don't get me wrong I think this movement for women to be more hardcore, tough, metal spikes and sporty is great it's just not for me.
So what's with opening doors, pulling out chairs, handing over our coats, and picking up the tab you ask? Honestly it's all about freeing women up so they can utilize that effort, time, and money to move around with the grace and finesse somewhere between a butterfly and a cat, hair and makeup akin to a Sally Hershberger haircut and face by Daniel Sandler, and purchase the things we like to see them in such as that Karen England dress, $300 Malano Blaniks, or a microfiber Prada clutch. We men live on that edge for another squeal, moan, giggle, and purr that all women seem to have so very well defined and can usually only be coerced with proper diligence and effort.
Which makes one wonder why do I know so much about the differences from Kate Spade, Coach, Salvatore Ferragamo, to Louis Vuitton, MAC, Lancôme, Clinque, to Shu-Uemura, and Tiffanys, Bvlgari, Tacori, to Verragio? What straight man knows so much about such things? I can almost feel the guild of men placing me under a close eye with their hand on the revoke stamp. But in my defense I can tell you who. One who can tell a perfect wine from a fine wine or even mediocre wine. One who spends hours understanding the intricacy of all the flavors and notes that construct a wine to know which one pairs best with the meal at hand opposed to playing russian roulette with the wine list. Cause goodness knows at this point I've fired alot more bullets instead of clicking empty chambers. But we're talking about women here not wine. And were talking about avoiding the revoke stamp. And further still we're talking about being a gentleman.
One has to know ones enemy and all the things that differentiate the good from the bad or the best fit in my case . And freeing them to do what makes women women only helps to amplify those discerning characteristics and personality traits. Besides who wouldn't want to be around beauty in motion when woman are truly being women? So it all comes down to being a gentleman only helps make women beautiful, intricate, and fascinating. And why some people think that's a bad thing is well beyond my understanding.
Nothing is better the women who wear long earrings, strappy heels, pink, frilly blouses, hair in ponytails, pig tails with ribbons, chokers, stripper boots, spaghetti strap and baby doll tshirts and jeans, berets, long necklaces, fingernail polish, mini, poodle, and pleated skirts, silk scarfs, long hair, anything from sanrio, and let's not forget the heart stopping large bouncy curls from hot rollers. A woman whose part couture, sunday couch potato, new york sophisticate, japanese school girl, black leather mistress, and the outdoorsy yet I run from bugs type. Now don't get me wrong I think this movement for women to be more hardcore, tough, metal spikes and sporty is great it's just not for me.
So what's with opening doors, pulling out chairs, handing over our coats, and picking up the tab you ask? Honestly it's all about freeing women up so they can utilize that effort, time, and money to move around with the grace and finesse somewhere between a butterfly and a cat, hair and makeup akin to a Sally Hershberger haircut and face by Daniel Sandler, and purchase the things we like to see them in such as that Karen England dress, $300 Malano Blaniks, or a microfiber Prada clutch. We men live on that edge for another squeal, moan, giggle, and purr that all women seem to have so very well defined and can usually only be coerced with proper diligence and effort.
Which makes one wonder why do I know so much about the differences from Kate Spade, Coach, Salvatore Ferragamo, to Louis Vuitton, MAC, Lancôme, Clinque, to Shu-Uemura, and Tiffanys, Bvlgari, Tacori, to Verragio? What straight man knows so much about such things? I can almost feel the guild of men placing me under a close eye with their hand on the revoke stamp. But in my defense I can tell you who. One who can tell a perfect wine from a fine wine or even mediocre wine. One who spends hours understanding the intricacy of all the flavors and notes that construct a wine to know which one pairs best with the meal at hand opposed to playing russian roulette with the wine list. Cause goodness knows at this point I've fired alot more bullets instead of clicking empty chambers. But we're talking about women here not wine. And were talking about avoiding the revoke stamp. And further still we're talking about being a gentleman.
One has to know ones enemy and all the things that differentiate the good from the bad or the best fit in my case . And freeing them to do what makes women women only helps to amplify those discerning characteristics and personality traits. Besides who wouldn't want to be around beauty in motion when woman are truly being women? So it all comes down to being a gentleman only helps make women beautiful, intricate, and fascinating. And why some people think that's a bad thing is well beyond my understanding.
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Date: 2005-11-08 04:35 pm (UTC)Or when a man asks your hand to dance and you feel completely shy and tell him you don't know how, but you get up anyway.. and then it feels like it's just you and him on the dance floor and with him leading, you don't feel insecure anymore and magically you can dance.
There's nothing like driving down the street and having your man put his hand on your leg, just the thought of knowing he knows he's touching you means something. or walking through the mall with his hand in your back pocket. It's affection and a bit of possessive nature but girls love it and it makes them feel where they belong.
Knowing the brand names of purses and dresses that you're buying for your women is the same thing as me knowing the names and numbers of the football teams & basketball teams simply because I want to feel the same excitement as the guy I'm watching the game with. I don't care about football, but I know he does. We were born to be with each other and love each other and know eachother and complement each other. It doesn't make you any less, it makes you more.
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Date: 2005-11-08 07:17 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2005-11-08 08:47 pm (UTC)I added you because I saw some digital work you posted somewhere (and being mutual friends with lori) your work impressed me.. but then I was checking out your site earlier (which I can't wait til all the pages are up) and reading the section with memories. Your words really speak to me. I think you're gonna win journal of the year from me Y
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Date: 2005-11-08 09:32 pm (UTC)http://www.digitalviscous.com/ (under Tsumik)
http://www.onemodelplace.com/tsumik
http://www.stillvapor.com
http://www.stilldream.com
:)
But thanks =) That's pretty cool =) Glad to know someone enjoys what I write. My next big project is to sort through all 5 years of my journal and pull out the good posts and write myself a larger bio post to place at the top of my journal. Cause I used to not do friends only posts but do them alot more often now so I figure I need to let people know that I do. Not to mention I'm pretty scattered in my journal about the things I talk about and my writing styles so it would be good to give people a more holistic overview versus a spot moment view depending on when they visit my journal.
a better man.
Date: 2005-11-08 05:03 pm (UTC)Not that it would matter to you in the slightest. but that post. that gets my respect.
Re: a better man.
Date: 2005-11-08 07:18 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2005-11-08 05:27 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2005-11-08 07:18 pm (UTC)Um, Wow!!!!!
Date: 2005-11-08 05:36 pm (UTC)I agree with this to an extent. However, I am from the new school I presume. I grew up in a single parent household with my brother being as close to a father figure as I could possibly have. I was not a daddy's girl and I did not have a mother that truly sheltered me. I had to grow up fast and the most important lesson my mother taught me was that if you want anything, you go out and get it yourself. So.....I tend to not let men buy things for me. And if I do, I feel really guilty about them picking up the tab. I don't feel that it is their job, I actually think that that is quite an unfair thing to ask of someone else. I prefer each person paying for their own stuff. But there is an exception. If the woman is down on the funds or wants to do something to further herself (such as going to school) then the partner should help and vice versa.
See, there is nothing wrong with you trying to be chivalrous. The questions you have to ask yourself though is "Will this woman appreciate it or will she take advantage?" Or do you not mind a women taking advantage? Because gauranteed there are plenty of women out here who will and do.
I guess we all have different definitions of what a woman should be like. To me, a woman is someone I can respect for being strong. Long hair, french manicured nails, and an expensive dress don't make a women. A powerful, yet gentle soul and a woman she carries herself with respect and integrity symbolize a true woman to me.
Johanna
Re: Um, Wow!!!!!
Date: 2005-11-08 07:23 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2005-11-08 06:28 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2005-11-08 07:23 pm (UTC)Aesthetics
Date: 2005-11-08 07:23 pm (UTC)I have many thoughts on this post. Thanks for sharing.
Re: Aesthetics
Date: 2005-11-08 07:39 pm (UTC)Thanks for commenting =)
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Date: 2005-11-08 07:48 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2005-11-08 09:33 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2005-11-08 09:15 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2005-11-08 09:35 pm (UTC)*blink*...
*blank stare*....
Ask the members of your gender cause I really have no idea. I've been chewed up and spit out more times then one can count on two hands and feet. Not to mention I've probably attempted to go on over 30 dates in the last 6 months of which none worked out or even happened. Awesome huh? =)
*bitter* :)
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Date: 2005-11-09 12:15 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2005-11-09 12:27 am (UTC)I must agree with her
Date: 2005-11-11 09:01 pm (UTC)YOU are so cool
Date: 2005-11-09 12:44 am (UTC)Anyway, thanks for the writing...I really enjoyed it & only wish it could be published somewhere. Well it should be! And cool pic from Depeche Mode...and from the Marta train...
Now to reach true cool status with me though, requires a certain EVITE RESPONSE TO MY 30th birthday!!!
(okay so now you know who this is...heheheh)
Re: YOU are so cool
Date: 2005-11-10 06:07 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2005-11-09 01:35 pm (UTC)Thanks for always making me feel special.
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Date: 2005-11-10 06:07 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2005-11-10 06:10 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2005-11-10 09:29 am (UTC)But I really really like the way you think. In all this feminism and equality to all thing there seems not to be any room left for gentlemen and ladies. Though I am honestly glad that there still are people that see the charm and beauty in being old fashioned. It's not about oppression of either sex, but about making room for romance to grow and prosper, I think.
And IF you are single... then my dear sir, the world is upside down.
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Date: 2005-11-10 06:09 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2005-11-10 07:10 pm (UTC)looks like i should have interviewed you before i finalized my self-observation.
i like how you write out your views, how you see them. it's almost like reading a column in a magazine.
i'd still like to talk with you on a hard-bound portfolio. even just to get started on one. let me know if you're doing anything this weekend (day-time)
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Date: 2005-11-10 07:11 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2005-11-10 07:55 pm (UTC)And I'm actually off all day tomorrow and should have some time potentially saturday and sunday. I think I gave you my number so give me a call or if not just leave me an anyonmous comment(so it's screened) here with your number and I'll give you a ring. :)
Oh and thanks =) Appreciate the compliments on my writing =)
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Date: 2005-11-11 06:46 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2005-11-11 06:49 pm (UTC)no subject
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Date: 2005-11-15 10:50 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2006-04-06 01:22 pm (UTC)I am not used to men being chivalrous to me. I am so not used to it that when someone is it throws me. There is absolutely nothing wrong with being conservative and a lot of times it seems to me that it's a sign of how much you respect the person. And when a man opens the door for me or pulls out my chair or any of those other small things they seem like a big deal to me. I not only notice, but it makes me feel tight in my chest and I think a lot of it comes down to be treated really poorly in the past. I try to appreciate everything and every gesture, even if I can't always express it properly. I think it makes me feel admired and appreciated simply for who I am and everyone should feel that way once in awhile. So, yeah, I can open the door myself and I can pay my own way but I understand and appreciate it when someone does it for me. I personally don't think it has anything to do with feminism (I consider myself a feminist) but more about feeling special.